Let’s step into a world where we treat anger as an ally that shows up and let’s us know what we’re angry about and how angry we are about it. A world where we don’t judge ourselves as bad, flawed, or broken because this intense emotion was triggered. A world where we recognize anger as the powerful messenger it is.
I’m coming from a place of experience as a Scorpio who has experienced a lot of personal 79 days. That’s Chaldean numerology speak for transfixed, outrage, enrage, wrath, irate, incensed…you get the picture.
Very few situations trigger intense anger in me these days, which is why I feel like I can share some wisdom about it. Especially the part about allowing yourself to have this feeling and learn from it. In part, I credit Esther Hick’s Emotional Guidance Scale for the foundation of how I started to come to a place where acknowledging my feelings opened up a new part of me. A more grown-up perspective of allowing. Bashar’s permission slips have also played a big part in helping me grow emotionally.
Time to dive in and talk about perspective and acknowledge that feeling angry is not the same as acting from a place of anger and that you are not a bad person because you feel anger.
Anger can be an ally that shows you what is upsetting you. You’ve reached a limit when it comes to ________ and now you have the awareness of what that limit is. Thank this part of yourself for being so clear about how angry you’ve become.
Anger And Self-Trust
In times when emotion is overriding calmer thinking, we can call on self-trust to know what to do with anger.
Trust yourself that if a break happens as a result of angry feelings, that it was time for that to happen. Of course, we always want changes to come from a loving place, but sometimes that doesn’t happen for a variety of reasons (like squares and oppositions in your astrology chart.)
Trust yourself to find the words to express yourself clearly in the heat of the moment.
Trust yourself to acknowledge how truly hurt you are.
Trust that you are not being petty or mean spirited because you’re angry.
Trust that you are allowed to feel anger.
Trust yourself to know the difference between being angry with yourself or being angry with something or someone you’re interacting with.
If you’re angry a lot of the time, then you probably want to make changes in your life. In that case, trust yourself to start identifying what those changes are and remember to begin within. Here is a list of tools to take a deeper look at and links to explore (for some of them), if you feel or think they will help:
Talk with a qualified therapist
Spend time alone so you can hear yourself, a.k.a. introspection
Talk with the people in your life about your unhappiness and listen to what they have to say.
When you’ve been through the ragey feeling and calmer thinking has returned, you can soothe yourself with:
Going for a walk
Taking a bath or shower
Taking a nap
Forgiving yourself for being angry. If beating yourself up for being angry is part of your process, I hope that you will learn not to add a big, heaping serving of judgement onto your already sensitive emotions.
Make amends if there is a need to.
Trust yourself to find ways to prevent future meltdowns.
Above all, treat yourself with respect and kindness when you need it most.
Your inspired friend,